Tonight I spoke with my football club. It’s the last round of the season for the majority of the club as we haven’t made finals, but the last game is a must win game.

Throughout the year, in fact for the last few years, whilst the off-field strategies have grown stronger the players seem not be as strong, not individually but as a team, as a club.

As a club President I don’t feel it’s my role to discuss or raise my concerns about the on-field performance, typically I leave this to the coaching staff, providing that I don’t hear strong words of discontent I presume things are on track, whether they win or lose is not my problem, provided I am furnishing the club, the players, the coaches and the supporters with the resources, the people, the equipment, then the results are what they are.

But a word has been thrown around consistently, sometimes in frustration sometimes in exasperation; leadership.

Leadership is also thrown around a fair bit in the wider world, in universities, in boardrooms, in resumes and elsewhere. The problem is like many other parts of our society, we want instant success, instant ability to be a ‘leader’ and we have that expectation in others. The problem is that leadership cannot be found through having the best coach or President, or going to the best private schools, or attending the most overpriced universities, it is not handed to someone with a title of CEO or Sports Captain. Leadership comes from within, it comes from thoughtful reflection of ones own actions, or inactions or closely observing the world around them and then making the appropriate changes.

Whining about things instead of changing things is the fastest way to end up unhappy and in middle management.

People aren’t born leaders, nor are they taught by anyone on how to be leaders, true leaders are those that reflect deeply on the path they want to go on, and where they are going or not going and then make adjustments.